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Was it Dad or Mom or the Mag? - kap - 02-18-2006
This is purely for non political educational purpose so PLEASE keep it clean. TiA.
My question: Which one of your parents gave you the TALK? And will it be you or your wife/husband/SO who will take on the task when your children reach THAT stage? Or will it be "We are giving your a subscription of ...."
The reason for my question: a 14 year old boy is now the father of a baby whose 17 year old mother he impregnated! We were surprised that the boy was the one because he is such a sweet, polite and quiet boy. But then it's always the quiet one. I am wondering whether he had the talk. If it would make any difference.
We don't have kids of our own. However, our small extended family is very close-knit so we are entrusted by the parents our nephews/nieces and cousins to frankly answered questions. Of course, we consult with the parents first so that everyone is on the same base.
Kap
Re: Was it Dad or Mom or the Mag? - rgG - 02-18-2006
I think it is usually the same sex parent that gives "the talk". I think that would be best if it is possible.
Re: Was it Dad or Mom or the Mag? - Jimmypoo - 02-18-2006
I got mine very early. about 8 or so.
It was pretty clinical, but also, very clear. It expanded in more depth as warranted around 11 or 12, but it was all primed by mommy dearest having been the victim at 15 years old, and the hell from the nuns at Catholic School.
In addition, the school system I went to was absolutely excellent at the time. In 5th grade they covered things via movie, for multi-grades, and then had a doctor that most of us knew in to answer questions (this was 3-5th grade crowd).
Split male/female, of course.
In 9th grade, the health department came in - very explicit. Talked slang too... to make sure the STD message got across.
In 10th the degree to which the biology was covered was as good as a human sexuality class I had that was a 400 level psych class at Purdue.
That is probably why celibacy is so painful these days. I know it all, but I sleep with three male pussies.
Re: Was it Dad or Mom or the Mag? - Racer X - 02-18-2006
hey, you the uncle who was pushing to teach the niece/nephew to swim at an early age?
Good for you.
That's all I got. I got nothing else other than be honest. Youngesters HATE IT when they are lied to, or talked down to.
Re: Was it Dad or Mom or the Mag? - Phy - 02-18-2006
My dad gave me the talk, then followed up with a couple books on sexuality. I was invited to ask questions if I had any. (I didn't, as I had read all the "marriage manuals" I could get my hands on while I baby sat the neighbors' kids.)
Our three sons came along and sure enough, I got to give them the talks-- starting at a very young age-- about 3 I think-- and then going into more detail as they got older. There were also books available in the house for them to get more information. As a result, they were very open about asking questions.
Once I was driving the boys somewhere and the youngest (about 7-8 at the time) asked , "Mom, how do lesbians make love?" I nearly drove off the road, but managed to pull to the shoulder and stop the car. We discussed the terminology and where he had gotten the term, and I answered the question best as I could. I had gotten back on the road and heard a lot of snickering coming from the back seat. "Mom, but HOW do you know that?"
My answer was not a calm parental assurance, but something along the lines of them being on restriction for a year. They giggled all the way home. And they still remind me of that day sometimes!
Parenthood is not for the faint of heart.
Re: Was it Dad or Mom or the Mag? - Racer X - 02-18-2006
Boy, I know what my father-in-law should ask you to teach at the next NWAP meeting Phy.......
Re: Was it Dad or Mom or the Mag? - kap - 02-18-2006
Yup, both my woman and I pushed for the lessons. And the parents listened! Our six year old cousin enjoys swimming and proudly so, "I swim like a fish now!"
Racer X Wrote:
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> hey, you the uncle who was pushing to teach the
> niece/nephew to swim at an early age?
>
> Good for you.
>
> That's all I got. I got nothing else other than
> be honest. Youngesters HATE IT when they are lied
> to, or talked down to.
Re: Was it Dad or Mom or the Mag? - kap - 02-18-2006
It was my aunt who gave my brother and me the talk. Now she does the same thing to her little daughter; her husband shies away from the topic.
Kap
rgG Wrote:
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> I think it is usually the same sex parent that
> gives "the talk". I think that would be best if it
> is possible.
>
>
Re: Was it Dad or Mom or the Mag? - BLeonard - 02-18-2006
I still haven't had the talk and my mother has passed away and my dad is in his eighties.
I do remember once asking for the book "Ann Landers talks to teenagers about sex" and my mother bought it for me with no questions.
The world was very different then. There was no sex ed in schools and there were only three television channels and most programs weren't even allowed to acknowledge the presence of a bathroom. Couples slept in twin beds. As far as I knew having a baby was a surgical operation and I had no idea how they were conceived.
Re: Was it Dad or Mom or the Mag? - kap - 02-18-2006
Believe or not, the world hasn't changed that much even to this day and age. I know teens whose parents feel so uncomfortable about the whole deal they are hoping their children learn it from someone else or books! My friends in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, learned it from friends, and boyfriends/girlfriends, whathaveyou.
Kap
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BLeonard Wrote:
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> The world was very different then.