Why Do We Teach Girls That It’s Cute to Be Scared?-NYT

[$tevie]

Here's a question. How much of wishing one's daughter would not try scary things is the fear that she may suffer an injury that will make her "unattractive"? Perhaps parents fear a broken nose, or a loss of a limb, or other disfiguring injuries that would render their daughter "ugly". I'm using quotes because I don't feel this way myself. I don't even have daughters. I'm just wondering, since I personally feel as if women handle pain and suffering better than men, if this idea derived from a concern about a daughter's future attractiveness to potential spouses?

I don't mean to imply it would be the sole reason. Just playing devil's advocate.

[3d]

If we're playing devil's advocate,,,
Maybe, by nature, boys have no common sense. They see a fire pole and without hesitation jump right then and there without any regard for his own safety. A girl on the other hand HAS common sense and pauses at the fire pole. That 2-3 second pause gives the parent a moment to run over and nag her to be careful.

[DinerDave]

rgG wrote:
[quote=what4]
If you have daughters, raise them to see, and not to be seen.

My daughter was raised to see and ALSO be seen.

She is a strong willed, independent woman, and she looks damn good while doing it. You go girl!
This pretty much sums up my daughter as well, rgG.
Thanks for wording it how I was trying to do myself, but was searching for the right words.

Dave

[rgG]

DinerDave wrote:
[quote=rgG]
[quote=what4]
If you have daughters, raise them to see, and not to be seen.

My daughter was raised to see and ALSO be seen.

She is a strong willed, independent woman, and she looks damn good while doing it. You go girl!
This pretty much sums up my daughter as well, rgG.
Thanks for wording it how I was trying to do myself, but was searching for the right words.

Dave
Thankfully, I am seeing more young women like this, and I am also happy that a lot of her male friends, and especially her long time boyfriend, are very pro women and pro equal respect and pay for women.
I firmly believe it is getting better for younger women. We aren't at parity, yet, but it is getting better.