No donation,no emails or lunch

[Sarcany]

samintx wrote:
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A trumpste ex friend has dropped me from contact since I did not make a generous donation to a political group this year. She is very religious, has given me gifts,lunch,emails offered to take me to movies..but silence now after her personal letter to me that got no reply or check.

Has it occurred to you that she's pissed that you never pick up a check?

A little reciprocity is what makes a relationship.
When I am asked to lunch not “let’s do lunch” I don’t expect to pay although I offer after the meal.
Good to offer.

Better to pull out a credit card and grab the check every once in awhile.

With all of my friends, male or female, we either go Dutch or alternate picking up the check when we go out. If we go out as a group, we either split the check or if we expect to get together as a group again in the near future, someone picks up the whole check in the expectation that one of the others will pick up the check on the next outing.

And often, someone other than the one paying the bill will cover the tip.

It doesn't matter who invited whom. The only special circumstance is a unique celebration. If a friend gets a raise, s/he pays for the meal or drinks. If s/he has a birthday, s/he doesn't pay. That sort of thing. And it's very clearly spelled out with the original invitation. "Jeanine just finalized her divorce. She's not buying the drinks tonight."

If you've never payed for a meal with her, you're in deficit.

[Sam3]

Maybe the lady is using lunch as a business expense and using it as a write-off for the political group.

And besides which, I think Suzanne has been around the block enough times to know proper etiquette.

[Sarcany]

Sam3 wrote:
Maybe the lady is using lunch as a business expense and using it as a write-off for the political group.

And she took her kids? And that explains the gifts and the movie invitations?

This woman made repeated overtures of friendship and got nothing in return. After awhile, who wouldn't ghost someone who always took and never gave?

Friends don't let friends always pick up the check.