How do you deal with someone you just can't stand?!

[RgrF]

[RgrF]

So if Mike worked in a family funeral parlor/morgue (think 6 Feet Under), the solution would be???

[Markintosh]

Funeral Home? Kill...
Cubicle Farm? Line her cubicle with soundproof tiles...
Education? Give her detention...
Medical? Drug her coffee....

[Donkey Hotay]

Try to find a copy of "Dealing with People You Can't Stand: How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst" by Brinkman & Kirschner

At Amazon:
http://www.amazon.com/Dealing-People-You...18?ie=UTF8&s=books

Or your local library / consortium.

Also consider "Coping with Difficult People: The Proven-Effective Battle Plan That Has Helped Millions Deal with the Troublemakers in Their Lives at Home and at Work" by Robert Bramson

http://www.amazon.com/Coping-Difficult-P...00-4212118

Pop-psych ? Maybe.
Useful life skill ? Definitely.
Works for me ? Uhhhh...

[Paul F.]

Stare at her...
Just ... Stare.


Don't look away....
Just stare...


Don't speak.
Just stare...


After three hours of that, she'll stay as far away from you as she can.

[ka jowct]

If you can't wear earphones, you can't do much except complain to your boss, or confront her directly and ask her to talk less.

I had to work for a couple of years in an area in which people using nearby office equipment chattered away, or hummed to themselves audibly and tunelessly, or popped gum, or did other distracting things. It really got on my nerves, but there was no way that people were going to remember that they shouldn't be chatting within earshot of people who were trying to work, unless the people affected by the disturbances made a really big stink.

The whole cubicle approach may be cheaper to set up, but it isn't good for productivity.


I have a client I'm about to cut loose because it's so painful dealing with this person. Of course, the fact that the client has found excuses to not pay me for the last work I did is also a big factor. But I was starting to feel like I needed tranquilizers just to have a conversation with this person, let alone be in the same small space for any length of time.

[OWC Jamie]

[quote Paul F.]Stare at her...
Just ... Stare.


Don't look away....
Just stare...


Don't speak.
Just stare...


After three hours of that, she'll stay as far away from you as she can.



Stare at the area about a foot below her shoulders.
Do not make eye contact.
It <> drive her nuts.
Should work even faster.

[Carm]

LMAO Paul. F. So thats why.....


JK.

Carm

[NewtonMP2100]

I feel for you. . .same problem here.. .

I have a cubicle (used to have an office) and one of the guys right next to be is on the phone ALL day. . .I mean all day. . .he barely gets off to eat lunch or go to the bathroom. ..

I can use headphones, which I do but he talks very loud and I can't up the volume because the music would be way to loud. . .

My boss is also passive-aggressive so she sees this but never really does anything except sending out general emails about work conduct in the office to ALL the workers.

I know all his business. .. his 2 girlsfriends (to whom he talks really graphic to on the phone and really loud. . .blech!!. . .it's like watching a gynecological visit. . .his car accident. . .the problem with his car insurance. ..when he feels "sexy". . .yuck!

Just counting the days until it is over. . .

[mikebw]

Thanks for the replies. I guess things just get to me by the end of the week. Not really much I can do about it I suppose, except change the way I think about it. She is supremely oblivious to many things, and fortunately not within direct view as I find her rather unattractive. When it's all said and done, I guess I just don't like her and this is how it manifests. Time to just ignore her as best as I can.
Oh, and I'm looking for a new job pretty much every day.