04-27-2018, 11:51 AM
RAMd®d wrote:
Please don't victim shame.
Please don't mischaracterize the truth my statement as shaming. It's stupid of you to do so.
The fact is if one doesn't say something, nothing gets done. And yes, sometimes even when someone says something, nothing gets done.
It's an imperfect world.
Perhaps, but which target were you aiming at? Were you pointing at the victims and criticizing them for not coming forward? Or were you pointing at all of us for tolerating a social context in which coming forward is unsafe for victims?
This distinction is important. If you don't make this distinction, then you can end up simply contributing to the problem, regardless of your intentions.
We all have notions about how other people ought to behave, based on our own experience. Unfortunately, or fortunately, as the case may be, we don't have familiarity with the nature of things we haven't experienced for ourselves. It is important to be open to the possibility that there are things that we don't personally understand.