08-26-2019, 03:36 AM
GeneL wrote:
Wow, Markintosh!
I just would be so happy if a story like yours could motivate Mavis.
Unfortunately, at any mention of some kind of action, Mavis becomes hysterical. She is just so fearful of her daughter.
Do you know anything about the details of the trust? Are there papers in the house about the trust? Does Mavis have a medical Proxy? Would she be willing to make you medical proxy? If she does, that would go a long way to protect her from her daughter.
You need to be calm when you talk to her about this -- very difficult, I know, given your own situation, but arguing will just upset her more. Reach into yourself for calmness, and for your most logical and kind self.
Recalibrate and start small. Better to say to her she is right to worry about what her daughter will do. That's why it's a good idea to talk to a lawyer just to get information to understand the situation. She doesn't need to tell her daughter she is talking to a lawyer. After talking to a lawyer, it will become more clear what is the wisest way to address her daughter's behavior. She is not required to take the lawyer's advice, but she can listen and then decide for herself.
You need to push without pushing.
It seems very much like the daughter wants you out of the house so that you are not there to interfere with her plan to take over the trust.