04-04-2021, 10:30 PM
GGD wrote:
A related topic to consider.
I don't know how many children they have, but it would be good if one child could assist them with tracking their medical conditions and finances. Possibly even going to doctor appointments with them and understanding their conditions, and treatments, and make sure that they're following up. And understand what medicine they're supposed to be taking, what each is for, and make sure that they're getting them refilled and are taking them as prescribed.
And for finances, understand what all of their bills are, due dates, phone contacts, websites, etc. If the one that has been handling the bills passes away or their ability declines, it's helpful when a child is familiar and can step in to take over.
And maybe even review monthly banks / credit card statements just to make sure that they're not getting caught up in any scams.
Amen to this .We waited a little bit too late to fully support my Mom with her finances and she made some big, regrettable purchases after a lifetime of wise money management. And got taken advantage of a bit by some people who worked at the house.
Communication between siblings is key. It will help the parents tremendously If the adult kids present a united front of support without bickering.
And yes testing is crucial. If either has early stage dementia the sooner you plan around it the better. A good neurology team is invaluable. Make sure adult siblings know about all health issues so they are all managed appropriately. Divide up the tasks amd communicate regularly.
There are many good books on aging, one I found useful is Contented Dementia by Oliver James.
Best of luck and remember to take care of yourself as you care for them. It can get very hard. .