02-25-2023, 02:20 PM
Diana wrote:
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From today’s Heather Cox Richardson e-newsletter:
Florida governor Ron DeSantis traveled this week to New York City, Philadelphia, and Chicago to insist those Democratic-led cities were crime-ridden, although as human rights lawyer Qasim Rashid pointed out, Florida has a 19% higher rape rate, 66% higher murder rate, and 280% higher burglary rate than New York.
No matter. He’s telling his base what they want to hear. (Also, FWIW, rape cases require the victim to report, and as a victim, if you don’t think anything good will come of reporting, you may not do it).
This may sound a little bitter, but I don’t care.
A rape victim is raped more than once: initially physically, and then mentally repeatedly.
Let me explain—this is how it often works.
First, you may not be believed that anything happened. Or if it did, you asked for it, either verbally or how you dressed, walked, talked, or even your mere presence (because we all know that women secretly want it). Once you get past that, you will have to describe the event: to the police; to the lawyer; to the judge; to the counselor; to your family; to your friends; to the public. The further humiliation and shame will keep you quiet. If that isn’t enough, then HE is a good boy, HE would never do such a thing… more gaslighting, more humiliation, more shame. Good girls never have this happen to them. Yeah, right.
And people wonder why rape is so under reported.
And the base wants to continue living in a fantasy world where such doesn’t exist.
Not bitter at all. That’s exactly why I made the comment, knowing that the ordeal of rape only begins with the act itself. Women (usually women, at least) have to be really determined to report, knowing what they’re up against. And if they think a patriarchal society isn’t going to give a shit about themselves or the perp, they may decide not to do so.