04-17-2007, 12:26 AM
Rules on what, specifically?
To me, it depends on the purpose of your or her call. If it was a chance discovery that you knew her father, I don't think there's anything wrong in mentioning how you felt.
It's a compliment, and if she had no ill will towards him it would probably bring up fond memories of Dad, and appreciate your sincere thoughts.
If you somehow came off as sleazy, then it *might* be perceived as a "line" or otherwise self-serving.
And yes, I think many mentors have never really realized how much they've helped/mentored somebody, nor thought of themselves in that high regard.
It's always nice to know you're made a positive difference in somebody's life, even if you don't recall the person or details.
It may have felt awkward for you, but it was a damn nice thing to say, regardless.
To me, it depends on the purpose of your or her call. If it was a chance discovery that you knew her father, I don't think there's anything wrong in mentioning how you felt.
It's a compliment, and if she had no ill will towards him it would probably bring up fond memories of Dad, and appreciate your sincere thoughts.
If you somehow came off as sleazy, then it *might* be perceived as a "line" or otherwise self-serving.
And yes, I think many mentors have never really realized how much they've helped/mentored somebody, nor thought of themselves in that high regard.
It's always nice to know you're made a positive difference in somebody's life, even if you don't recall the person or details.
It may have felt awkward for you, but it was a damn nice thing to say, regardless.