GeneL Needs Our Help!

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I'm at work and don't have time to read through all of this but I'm so sorry for what you are going through GeneL. She owns the condo outright? You lived there for 20 years? Even though it's in her name did you "assist" in making that happen? If so, make sure you document or show that you "helped" pay off the condo.

Doesn't sound like you want to make waves but you need to make sure you have a safe place to live. Sounds like her daughter is a bully and wants the $$$$. Was she married at one time? Did he pass away or did they divorce? Because she probably feels that she's entitled to what was mom and her fathers. If you are fine with that and that's what your g/f wants for her daughter maybe it's just as simple as drawing up paperwork that you and your family wouldn't get anything from Mavis in the end.

My "ex-brother in law" and his family were furious when his father got remarried within a very short period of time after his moms passing. It was his "old fling" from before he was married. She and her kids got TONS of his parents money when he passed away.

[GeneL]

Sadly, the response that I had been looking for has eluded me.
Thank you everyone for the kind thoughts and words, but so far no one who lives close enough to me has offered to assist me.
Not having an extra pair of hands is my biggest hindrance and therefore my biggest need.
I guess that I have to move on to find something that works for me.
It seems pointless to seek the kind of support that I was looking for here on the forum.
Oh well...

I'm so discouraged... sigh

[Todd's keyboard]

GeneL (and all),

If I were local, I'd be happy to help out.

As others have mentioned, you might find an e-bay broker useful. I can't recommend any personally. Searching "ebay consignment sellers" brings up some options.

Wish you the best.

Todd's long-distance keyboard

[ArtP]

I just googled this - I don't have time to do personally but maybe someone can watch and possibly tackle?

Youtube - How to Set Up a Go Fund Me Account

EDIT: Does it even have to be a big GoFundMe campaign?

How many would feel comfortable sending a few bucks directly via CashApp or Paypal if GeneL needed and it helped.

The digital equivalent of putting paper money in a sheet of loose leaf paper and snail mailing?

[wowzer]

I’m sorry to hear about your situation, Gene. I hope that things will turn around. It’s sad to see children take advantage of a parent...which I sometimes see in the ER. I call protective services, but it always is complicated as the parent wants to please their child. Just remember that you’ve got people online who care about you (and known you for 20+ years). My thoughts are with you.

[GeneL]

Thank you, wowzer

[Carnos Jax]

ArtP wrote:
How many would feel comfortable sending a few bucks directly via CashApp or Paypal if GeneL needed and it helped.

The digital equivalent of putting paper money in a sheet of loose leaf paper and snail mailing?

I would.

P.S. - I wish I could help with the 'extra hands' part, as I have enough free time on my hands. But being so far away, not much I can do. If GeneL or anyone thinks of anything that can be done from afar, I'd be more than glad to help.

[mrlynn]

Gene—

Your report of the visit with Mavis two days ago doesn't tell us why the daughter is against you (others here have suggested protecting her inheritance, but that is speculation). Now it appears Mavis has turned against you as well, raising the additional question whether that's her own decision, or whether the daughter has unduly influenced her. From your description of her "litany that she has used to demean me, over the years," it sounds like she has long harbored resentment of your dependence.

Well, there is no way for us to know the history of your relationship with her, aside from the clues you have given. As for selling off your collectibles, would it be possible for you to make contact with your son and ask for his help? Sometimes evident need can help heal rifts and lead to reconciliation.

/Mr Lynn

[mikebw]

Gene, I don't mean to come down hard on you, but it almost sounds like you don't want to be helped unless it is the perfect solution that you have come up with in your mind.

Take the room that that psychologist found for you when you run out of time at the hospital. That is your way out. Move on from there.

As fas a go fund me, anyone can create a fund with GeneL as the beneficiary, and would need only his email address to initiate the process of transferring the funds raised.

GoFundMe wrote:
This article is a guide for GoFundMe beneficiaries that have been added to an account by an organizer.

How a beneficiary account works
When an organizer adds a beneficiary, an email invitation is sent asking them to claim the beneficiary account. Once the beneficiary has accepted that invitation, a separate but linked GoFundMe account is created for them. The beneficiary can then access the funds and request a withdrawal while still allowing the campaign organizer to manage all other aspects of the campaign.

Here's how to receive funds from a campaign created for you:

Check your email for the invitation that the campaign organizer should have sent you
Select "Accept Money" within the invitation email
Set up their GoFundMe password and create your account
Confirm your email using a 2nd separate message that is sent to you
Log back in to GoFundMe and follow the steps to receive the funds
Important information after you've accepted your beneficiary invitation:

As the beneficiary, you’ll have sole access to the funds raised on your campaign.
You'll need to withdraw the funds within 30 days of the day the first donation was made, or the GoFundMe will stop accepting new donations entirely.
You will also be able to use your own email address and password to access the beneficiary account and make changes to your withdrawal settings (such as updating your bank account).

https://support.gofundme.com/hc/en-us/ar...eive-Funds-

[space-time]

sorry to hear about your troubles. I am in NJ so too far to help and even if you were closer, family job, kids, personal problems leaves very little time for me to be able to help someone else these days. But I will be able to make a small cash contribution, if there is paypal account or go fund me campaign.

Also, the fact the Mavis refused any financial help with the bill over the past 20-30 years you have been together and he was paying the mortgage makes me wonder if she was insecure about your relationship and wanted to have a clean exit at some point.

Also surprised that your Son does not want to help. That sucks.