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We agreed on gift giving.
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12-23-2009, 08:12 PM
Buck wrote: You and your wife have made a very smart choice. Congratulations. I only wish more people would do the same... Best wishes paying off your debt!
12-23-2009, 08:34 PM
My wife and i agreed not to get anything for each other. Mostly b/c I'm out of work. But also so we can give our daughter a great Christmas. She's number one now.
12-23-2009, 08:35 PM
I think you are doing a great thing and while I am not a wife (yet) myself, I would KILL my husband if he went out and bought a gift after we had agreed not to.
FWIW, if I say I don't want or need anything, I mean it. No hidden agenda. DM
12-23-2009, 08:45 PM
dmann wrote: IME, almost every woman who says that means it when she says it. But by the time the event comes -- even though she'll still insist that she wants nothing -- she will actually want a guy to have read her mind and come up with exactly the gift that she really wanted, but wouldn't ask for. Woe betide the man who gets nothing or gets the wrong gift.
12-23-2009, 09:05 PM
My wife and I haven't exchanged gifts for years. Well, at least for Christmas and birthdays. On occasion we get each other a small token gift, like this year she got me a box of chocolate covered pretzels, which she already gave me.
12-23-2009, 09:12 PM
Doc wrote: IME, almost every woman who says that means it when she says it. But by the time the event comes -- even though she'll still insist that she wants nothing -- she will actually want a guy to have read her mind and come up with exactly the gift that she really wanted, but wouldn't ask for. Woe betide the man who gets nothing or gets the wrong gift. I know many women like that. Some men, too. I can't speak for them, only myself. My ex-BF learned that lesson the hard way when he bought me a beautiful watch one year when we decided to skip gifts because were trying to save to buy a bigger place. The watch went back and I felt like a shmuck because not only did he get me something and I didn't get anything for him, I felt like a total b---h for making him take it back. DM
12-23-2009, 09:37 PM
I find ludicrously elaborate, (almost) over the top romantic gestures are a safe go to option in cases like this. Something like a totally killer breakfast in bed complete with champagne, single rose, massage, etc. Whatever floats her boat. A picnic, a drive down the coast with her perfect mix CD playing, bake her cookies, get her favorite ice cream and sit down with her favorite movie ever, whatever.
Close enough to spending nothing to count. You can sell it as being for "us", but you both know it's really for her. And if she did cave and get you something, unless it's something insanely expensive, you're not left high and dry giving her bupkis. Yet another reason that a man who never at least learns his way around a kitchen is a natural born fool. :biggrin:
12-23-2009, 09:46 PM
My girlfriend was one of those. Now that she is my wife she is one of these :thumbsup:
12-24-2009, 05:50 AM
Blankity Blank wrote: Yeah. Sometimes that's a good gift-substitute. Especially if it comes with an engagement ring or some nice diamond earings.
12-24-2009, 03:41 PM
Some people just aren't gift people to begin with. For any of you married people out there I would suggest reading the book "The Five Love Languages". Although it's probably good knowledge for anyone, married or not.
http://www.amazon.com/Five-Love-Language..._1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1261669206&sr=8-1 |
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