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[space-time]

3) Plan a vacation. Invite Mavis.

Why? it seems like she does not really love him anymore, if she allows him to suffer like this. Clearly he lover her, but it seem it is a one way love.

[Buzz]

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Pretty sure the idea is to get Gene and Mavis away from the controlling appendages of Mavis's daughter, so that Gene and Mavis can work through things without any interference.

There are too many interests that are way out of alignment. Gotta start with the principals, by themselves, so that they can figure out wazzup without Daughter Dearest, et al, chiming in during that process.
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[Bernie]

Buzz wrote:
Space-
Pretty sure the idea is to get Gene and Mavis away from the controlling appendages of Mavis's daughter, so that Gene and Mavis can work through things without any interference.

There are too many interests that are way out of alignment. Gotta start with the principals, by themselves, so that they can figure out wazzup without Daughter Dearest, et al, chiming in during that process.
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[deckeda]

space-time wrote:
3) Plan a vacation. Invite Mavis.

Why? it seems like she does not really love him anymore, if she allows him to suffer like this. Clearly he lover her, but it seem it is a one way love.

The other thing #3 does is act to confirm or deny a commitment. (From either, if you think about it.) Relationships can go through all sorts of tests, subtle or overt. All can be legit.

[3d]

Let's imagine the genders were reversed.
A +80 year old man locked a +80 year old woman out of the apartment they shared for +25 years while she was in the hospital. She is now homeless and left to fend for herself with no income and no savings.
Would you tell the woman to plan a vacation and invite the man? You guys are insane.

[GeneL]

3d wrote:
Let's imagine the genders were reversed.
A +80 year old man locked a +80 year old woman out of the apartment they shared for +25 years while she was in the hospital. She is now homeless and left to fend for herself with no income and no savings.
Would you tell the woman to plan a vacation and invite the man? You guys are insane.

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[GeneL]

I just had a perfect example of how fouled up my life is.
I was lying here in the dark, unable to sleep.
I decided to fill in some of the gaps that had been either asked about or misconstrued.
I had written quite a bit when suddenly I lost it all!
It's already 4:30 in the morning, so I am going to put my phone down and see how I feel after a little sleep.

[deckeda]

Well 3d, people tend to give suggestions based on available information and circumstances. Let's hear yours.

[ADent]

Hope you get better soon.

Don't let the turkeys keep you down.

[GeneL]

I really hate to say this, but I am terrified because of all my inability to do deal with all the sudden and dramatic changes that I am faced with.
I have been doing my best to cope with needing to find a place to live, but there's been nothing available for the meager income that I have.
In the past, I have been doing something that paid enough for me to have a comfortable place to live. Now I am finding myself unable to afford a place that will allow me to soften the shock of being cut off from the place where I "nested" for twenty years.
So much of my difficulty is emotional. I am finding that at 81 I don't have the resilience to adapt that I've had in the past.
Having been ill and hospitalized for six months I hadn't even considered that I would be locked out of the place that I called home for the last twenty years.
I have appreciated the kind words and suggestions that I have received, but I have come full circle to the point where kind words aren't enough to get me past the dead end that I've come to.
I have exhausted all of my ideas and energy and I just don't know what I am going to do.
I'm on borrowed time as far as remaining in the hospital and I don't know where I am going to go from here.
Outside of a miracle, I don't have any idea what I can do to make my life bearable. No place to live, no relationship that I can count on, there seems to be nothing else for me. I seem to have lost the spark that in the past I would call on when I was faced with a tough situation.
I don't know how I can go on like this.