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[GeneL]

I had been checking rentals in my area for months and everything that came up was too expensive for me.
I did just check once again and it was the same story. Too expensive...
I have sent a deposit on the 10x10 room ($725/Mo) sight unseen, except for one picture. It appeared to be "within reason" considering that it was, at least, a room to myself.
It brings me to tears, when I think about the home that I've had with Mavis.
Thanks again for the additional posts, even though they weren't productive.
You can get an idea of what it has been like as I churned the "possibilities" for day after day, for the last three months.
I just wonder what will become of Precious if I can't find a place that will allow me to keep her with me? It is so heartbreaking.

[Blankity Blank]

Precious is a cat, yes? If you are not allowed a pet, and you do not feel comfortable entrusting Precious to Mavis, you might try contacting a pet foster care program. Your situation would be atypical from the usual circumstance they deal with, but if they can not accommodate you, perhaps they can guide you in another direction.

Another suggestion I’ve heard is to contact your vet. They are not infrequently approached by clients looking for pets. If you explain your situation of needing a temporary home for Precious, they may have, or hear from, someone who can help.

Here’s a start:
Orange County Animal Services Foster Care Program

[Janit]

Blankity Blank wrote:
Precious is a cat, yes? If you are not allowed a pet, and you do not feel comfortable entrusting Precious to Mavis, you might try contacting a pet foster care program. Your situation would be atypical from the usual circumstance they deal with, but if they can not accommodate you, perhaps they can guide you in another direction.

Another suggestion I’ve heard is to contact your vet. They are not infrequently approached by clients looking for pets. If you explain your situation of needing a temporary home for Precious, they may have, or hear from, someone who can help.

Here’s a start:
Orange County Animal Services Foster Care Program

I believe Precious is a bird.

[NewtonMP2100]

.....this is just a comment (not judgement) but I can't comprehend how someone/partner that one has spent 10+ years with suddenly tosses the other person out......literally in the street......and that person is ill to boot.......

[macphanatic]

Can Precious be deemed a comfort companion or whatever is the buzzword these days?

[Bill in NC]

NewtonMP2100 wrote:
.....this is just a comment (not judgement) but I can't comprehend how someone/partner that one has spent 10+ years with suddenly tosses the other person out......literally in the street......and that person is ill to boot.......

Mom never got divorced...other man living with mom...kids looking for the earliest opportunity to get rid of the interloper (in their view)

[Blankity Blank]

Bill in NC wrote:
[quote=NewtonMP2100]
.....this is just a comment (not judgement) but I can't comprehend how someone/partner that one has spent 10+ years with suddenly tosses the other person out......literally in the street......and that person is ill to boot.......

Mom never got divorced...other man living with mom...kids looking for the earliest opportunity to get rid of the interloper (in their view)
And, if we’re to be honest, we’re only hearing one view of what is in all likelihood a very complex and nuanced situation.

[$tevie]

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[GeneL]

I really do appreciate all the kind thoughts that you all have continued to post.
I hate to say that it just gets harder for me to find anything in the words that can overcome the feeling of being all alone.
I went back to dialysis today as an outpatient and Mavis came to pick me up to have a bite to eat when I was done.
We stayed close by because I was still exhausted from my illness and lack of sleep.
I, once again, told Mavis how hard it was for me not to be able to just go home and be together. She said that she misses me as well and feels really sad about our being apart. I know that she means it, but her fear of what she thinks her daughter will do is awful for me to see. I want to protect her, but I can't.
As you can see, there are just so many issues and I can't figure out how to deal with them.
I feel as if nothing can make our situation better.

[DavidS]

Good morning. I've been offline here for the last couple weeks, dealing with my daughter's health issues, so I'm just catching up. I'm sorry you are going through all this.

This whole situation brings me to tears. Families can be the biggest source of support but also the biggest sources of pain and frustration. As I tell my patients, we all families are dysfunctional, just each in their own, special way.

At least Mavis still says that she cares for you. There is still hope for y'all, but not until she can stand up to her daughter. That "push" cannot come from you, however. Does she have other close friends who can help intervene on your behalf?

Everyone else has said more than I could offer, so I'll otherwise just offer my support and prayers for a positive outcome.