GeneL Needs Our Help!

[Markintosh]

Janit wrote:
If you are finding the situation with your father so difficult, it might be a good idea to look for some support for yourself as well.

Thanks for being so judgmental Janit. Caring for our adult parents is always a challenge. Over the last 4 years, I've lost my step father to a stroke, my mother in law to cancer and continue to support my separated mother and father with their various health issues. The dementia my father is experiencing is the biggest challenges as my step mother refuses to believe there is anything wrong.

Fortunately, I had been looking ahead and figured out how to take early retirement from my teaching career at 55 so I could fully apply myself to family needs the best I can.

I'm fine Janit.

[GeneL]

I hate that the thread has degraded into conflicts, as if I don't have enough to bring me down.
The most difficult issue for me to deal with has been that I have defined my life around "loving" Mavis. This has been a constant for me for a very long time, but I have come to see that Mavis defines her love for me in very different terms.
It will be hard for me to distance my feelings for Mavis and to find a way not to sink into a deep depression.
I'm sad that no one has been willing to carry on a phone conversation with me. I had felt that this would help fill the void that will be left as I move away from making Mavis the center of my life.
I just pray that my health can improve so I can start doing things to convert my "stuff" into cash. That would be a way to start building a new scenario for myself.
Is anybody there?

[rz]

Blankity Blank wrote:
[quote=Janit]The remark that "it seems to run in the family" was unnecessarily mean. You may not think so, but it was.

I’m going to begin by standing in Markintosh’s corner, and disagree with that assessment. Even more to the point, his remark, at this point, only really scratches the surface of the elephant in the room.

Gene, we’re hundreds of posts in. Most, if not all of them, have been thoughtful, well meaning and carefully considered. But there is an elephant in the room. Maybe two or three.

If I were to take the ‘view from 30,000 feet’, no judgements, only observations, there are a few things that stand out. Needless to say, this is my view, and only my view, as far as I know.

First, from what’s been related to us, there are places where 1+1 do not seem to add up to 2. Beyond that, there are one or two places that, to be frank, as they stand, have some trouble passing the sniff test, at least for me.

But, those things are beyond parsing, or even explaining, in a setting like this. Far more important is mileage. Wear and tear.

You’ve covered even more terrain than me, Gene, and the journey takes its toll on us all. The brakes can start to squeak, the wheels get out of align, the gears don’t shift quite as well as they used to, the steering gets a little sloppy. We get a little broken. We just have to pop the hood and get the work done.

You need help in some ways we can’t give, as much as we’d like to. The man in the mirror needs seeing to. You’re strong enough. You’re brave enough. Keeping taking those small steps, but ultimately the biggest job, as it probably is for all of us, will be getting your internal house in order. Therapy, spiritual counseling, different strokes for different folks, but that’s going to be the real key to winning the war, I’d bet dollars to donuts.
Well stated Blank.

[space-time]

Is anybody there?

yes, Gene, We are here. We spoke a few years ago. I am not sure if i still have your number, will try to call you in the weekend.

there are only 3 people I spoke to on this forum. One is Carnos Jax once when he called me to tell me about a deal. We were buying some FUJI UV dSLRs from Adorama on clearance for $600 and selling them on Amazon for $1600. I only managed to flip one, I think he flipped maybe 2.

The other person is Robert M when he bought an Obihai Ii VOIP device and he wanted to test it out. In fact Robert M is in Long Island and I am in NJ, but we never met. I told him if he is ever in central NJ to look me up. I sometimes go to Brooklyn, we have friends there, but usually it is for an event like Brithday party or Thanksgiving/Easter/Christmas and there is no time left to go to Long Island to meet with "strangers" (LOL)

You are the third person that I spoke to. I don't recall speaking with anyone else, although I did have some deals with other people on the forum, but I never spoke to any of them.

Anyway, this is just some random thoughts to show that we are there, listening to you, and yes, I'll try to call you in the weekend. I will PM you my number, so feel free to call me, but please take into account the time zone, I am on the East coast, 3 hours ahead of you, so please don't call me later than 10 PM and no earlier than 8 AM. Thanks

[GeneL]

Thanks, space-time.
I just had one of the worst days in my life.
I got a call from the social worker that they would be discharging me on Tuesday. This news requires me to pull all of my things together and put them back in the boxes that they were in when I was moved from my previous nursing facility. to where I am now.
What makes this so particularly tough for me is that I was up most of the night. Even though my oxygen saturation was in the mid '90s, I felt like I was sufficating.
It seems to me that it's a problem with my heart due to congestive heart failure.
Anyway, no sleep plus having to prepare myself for the move to a tiny room was just more than my brain and body could handle.
Oh yes, I had dialysis today on top of everything else.

The end...

[decay]

Hi @GeneL

[GeneL]

Hi, decay! It's been a while?
How are you doing?

[decay]

GeneL wrote:
Hi, decay! It's been a while?
How are you doing?

Doing OK, thanks. Some changes going on at work, mostly with regards to time sheets and tracking - yay, busy work!

Getting a car for our daughter, who is learning to drive. It's diesel Benz that can also run off waste veggie oil (WVO), which she's excited about.

[M A V I C]

Hi Gene. Still thinking of you.

[GeneL]

Vegetable oil?!!!