Daughters or Sons (LONG) ?

[Grateful11]

We have two sons and would like to have had a third child but our youngest son has MD
and we didn't want to take a chance on bringing another child in this world with MD. I
wouldn't trade either one of them for anything in the world. The oldest starts college this fall
with basically a full honors scholarship to a private college and the youngest is an aspiring
writer. I just asked my wife yesterday if she knew how fortunate we were to have two
children that teachers say they wished they had a whole classroom full of. Our oldest son
had his 18th birthday party yesterday and had several of his friends over and I've never
seen a more well behaved group of young adults. My wife stayed home from day one, we
made sacrifices along the way but now we're very glad she did so.

Jp!: Your daughter is cute as a button!

[kj]

I have both a girl and a boy, and I love them both as much as I possibly could. It's almost offensive to me to think someone would prefer one or the other, but I would have to say the girl is harder for me because I can't comprehend why she does anything she does. She is a complete mystery to me. My boy makes perfect sense, maybe because I am one (a male anyway). I generally think guys are more "straight forward", but I could be wrong.

As far as the results of parenting, I'm dead sure parents can ruin their kids, but I am equally sure good parents can have horrid kids. Good parents can also take a kid headed for trouble, and be THE reason they make it. It's a thin line for some kids. kj.

[Pam]

I only have a daughter, who is 15 now, but I'd take her over a boy any day. I saw what the boys in day care were like. I saw what the neighborhood boys were/are like. I hear my friends' stories. Not for me thank you. And she thinks all the female soap opera stuff is annoying, likes boys, but wonders why they are all so stupid.

I do think any time one stereotypes you've already screwed up. No way can anyone do more than express a personal opinion based on their own limited experiences.

[elmo3]

[quote RonT]Quote:Re: Daughters or Sons (LONG) ? new
Posted by: elmo3 (IP Logged) [Ignore]
Date: April 22, 2007 02:00PM

As long as there is both a mother and a father in the house, in order to offer up both the male and female perspectives on life, your children--no matter the gender--will be fine, and you won't have any more difficulty with one than the other.

Boy, you apparently haven't a clue as to what you're talking about.

As an example: I have and Aunt & Uncle. Both good, hard working, church going (though not overly religious) decent people. Both are high school graduates - the uncle has some college. Both home every night, dinner with the kids daily, no profanity, no drinking problems no out of the ordinary in any way, etc, etc. Solid middle class family - never a problem with the law.

They first had a girl, then a boy then twin girls all born within a few years of each other (except the twins - of course :-)

The oldest girl, never a problem, is now a lawyer. The boy was killed at age 20 while participating in a home invasion robbery. One of the twins dabbled in drugs, had two failed marriages before finally straightening herself out. The other twin turned out to be gay which has been the only anomaly in her otherwise normal existence.

Life is seldom as cut and dried as you tried to make it sound.
Your one datum point is meaningless.

[elmo3]

[quote tronnei][quote RonT]The other twin turned out to be gay which has been the only anomaly in her otherwise normal existence.
There's a loaded statement.
Pretty much proves that Ron T is an idiot.

[lafinfil]

[quote elmo3]As long as there is both a mother and a father in the house, in order to offer up both the male and female perspectives on life, your children--no matter the gender--will be fine, and you won't have any more difficulty with one than the other.
Boy - talk about narrow minded

The only thing left out was that mom is stay at home and bakes cookies all day

What an insult to hard working successful single parents everywhere.

FWIW I have four sisters - one ones her own business while, one worked her own business from home, one has
fluctuated between working full time and freelancing over the last 20 years depending on the kids ages
and the other was a single parent for the first six years of her sons life and married a
guy who divorced an alcoholic wife and raise four kids on his own as a single father

His three boy are all in the military and the oldest just graduated from officers school
and all three did tours under Desert Storm

I'm sure they could tell you something about being raised by a single parent

[BigGuynRusty]

[quote lafinfil]FWIW I have four sisters - one ones her own business while, one worked her own business from home, one has
fluctuated between working full time and freelancing over the last 20 years depending on the kids ages
and the other was a single parent for the first six years of her sons life and married a
guy who divorced an alcoholic wife and raise four kids on his own as a single father
Don't Post Drunk!

BGnR

[DavidS]

Interesting discussion. I have 2 girls (ages 5 and 7 weeks) and a 3 1/2 year old son. My oldest has been challenging but that is due a life full of medical and developmental isses. Most of the time she is the sweetest person with a great smile and beautiful eyes. However, she has a wicked temper and despite being non-verbal, will let you know when she is pissed off. She is, however, the bravest, strongest person I know. She has been through more in her almost 6 years then most people have to face in a lifetime. She amazes me every single day.

My son has been constantly moving since he was in the womb (he totally changed positions 3 times in the week before his birth, necessitating a c-section for my wife). Once he started talking a couple of years ago, he has not stopped. He is a great little boy who is active, has a mind like a sponge, and a memory like a steel trap (we totally have to be careful about what we say around him). He is in a tough position, being the only son and middle child between 2 sisters who need our full attention but he handles it as best as he can. I can already see him taking a very protective role over both of his sisters.

The jury is still out on the baby, being only 7 weeks old. She's adorable but sure can cry. When she is ready to be fed, she better have that bottle in 30 seconds or else.

All kids have their strengths and challenges, ours certainly do. All families have their issues. I don't think that you can make a blanket statement one way or the other about which is easier to raise as everyone has their own perspective and experiences. However, that is one of the things that makes being a parent the greatest role.

[lafinfil]

[quote BigGuynRusty][quote lafinfil]FWIW I have four sisters - one ones her own business while, one worked her own business from home, one has
fluctuated between working full time and freelancing over the last 20 years depending on the kids ages
and the other was a single parent for the first six years of her sons life and married a
guy who divorced an alcoholic wife and raise four kids on his own as a single father
Don't Post Drunk!

BGnR

and this adds to the discussion how ?

[cbelt3]

Right now I'd happily trade my eldest son for a marginally trained monkey. My eldest daughter (who just announced her engagement at 19.. I'm startled) is a great young lady, but she drives me bats regularly.

My 9 year old son, however, alternates between sweet little boy and demon child.

All said, kids are gonna give you grey hair. The gender seems immaterial.

i will agree that girls are more about the 'relationship' issues once they go all teenager on you, which grated on me.

"What did you do in school today, honey ?"
"well, i was talking with kari and her and britney had a fight and i'm so upsed that bobby and heather broke up and..."
"Uh, well, did you take any classes ?"
... moment of silence....
"Mom! Daddy's saying stupid stuff again ! Mommmmm! "