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The best connections are all about surviving the good, the bad and the ugly.
Simply said and harder to do.
You and MR's Belty are part of our family. Simple stuff . . . sharing your vulnerability
requires trust. We are honored and respect your trust.
We also are a little empty and vulnerable as you "werk" this crisis out *(:>*
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Taking care of your sleep apnea will make a big difference in your life and possibly will help with your memory issues. I was a basket case before I got my machine to help with that. Now I'm only slightly weird. :-) best wishes.
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cbelt3 wrote:
Ended with dinner out, an angry wife
Why was she angry?
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so sorry to hear of your troubles, cbelt. all i can add to the comments above is the value i've found in constantly maintaining an awareness of what's present rather than what's missing. someone once told me that marriage is not a 50/50 proposition; it's a 90/10 proposition with each partner trying to give the 90%. my experience is that there's also a lot to be said for good ol' dumb luck.
ok, so the awareness thing wasn't all i could add.
i consistently find your technical advice among the most knowledgable, reliable and cogent of all i read here, which is even more impressive in light of the head injuries you sustained back then.
thanx to ztirffritz, too, for reminding me of that youtube video. one of the best i've seen--too perfect!
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F/U- we had a calm conversation in support of our youngest son last night, AND this morning. I've made an appointment with an ENT for the snoring / apnea, and am trying to spend more time with her so she knows I love her AND appreciate her.
I think I actually got a small smile out of her this morning, and she let me kiss her goodbye.
A lot of it is her frustration at dealing with RA and being so debilitated. She cannot tolerate any of the standard RA treatments, so we're trying to figure out what to do.
Admittedly a lot of my stress is tied into caring for her. I suspect there's an underlying feeling of frustration and resentment on both our parts. Understandable, but sometimes it percolates up to the top.
Hey, I stood up in front of all of our friends and families and promised to love and cherish her regardless of circumstances. I keep my gosh darned promises. Just.. sometimes I can be a jerk.
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cbelt3 wrote:
Hey, I stood up in front of all of our friends and families and promised to love and cherish her regardless of circumstances. I keep my gosh darned promises. Just.. sometimes I can be a jerk.
That's touching.
Best wishes to both of you.
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Good luck cbelt3! I know you both will not only weather this, but the bond will be stronger. You are a great guy and I'm sure she's a great gal.
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Thanks for letting us know things are on the mend
as we hoped they would be. Your openness is cherished
and respected cbelt3.
Lessons in love are of their own unique complexity . . .
Rudie *(:>*
