01-01-2017, 08:16 PM
For immediacy the options are limited.. possibly straight time-out. Empty room (not her bedroom), no stimuli, applied progressively - ist time 30 minutes, second time in a week - 1 hour, 3rd time in a month - 2 hours. If she makes it clean to the next level, everything resets.
ADDEDUM -- whatever you do be consistent. What is unacceptable today has to be unacceptable tomorrow. What you won't accept, you're wife must not, and vice versa. That is extremely important, especially early on. You're daughter must know what you will accept, and what is not going to be tolerated. She cannot be guessing. Let her know upfront what the rules are and what the consequences will be.
In classrooms, teachers learn fast that you have to be firm and no-nonsense on day one. Once you have the upper hand and the kids know what is expected, you can back off a bit. If they go too far, you can easily reestablish control based on the original rules. It doesn't work the other way.
ADDEDUM -- whatever you do be consistent. What is unacceptable today has to be unacceptable tomorrow. What you won't accept, you're wife must not, and vice versa. That is extremely important, especially early on. You're daughter must know what you will accept, and what is not going to be tolerated. She cannot be guessing. Let her know upfront what the rules are and what the consequences will be.
In classrooms, teachers learn fast that you have to be firm and no-nonsense on day one. Once you have the upper hand and the kids know what is expected, you can back off a bit. If they go too far, you can easily reestablish control based on the original rules. It doesn't work the other way.