A little advice, please

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GuyGene wrote:
"We don't do spankings." No wonder. I'm about sick of all this panty waist mess these days. No offense meant personally.:RollingEyesSmiley5:

I was spanked as a child. Actually whipped with a belt. That was over fifty years ago and thoughts on that sort of thing were different, but I decided long before I ever had a child that I would never do that to my child. Violence, and whipping/spanking a child is a violent act, is not the best way to discipline. My mom used to say that it hurt her more than me, when she whipped me. If it is that painful for everyone involved, it pobably isn't a good thing. Let me also say, I was not a problem child. If you hit a child as discipline, how to you teach them that hitting someone else is wrong?
My child is now 25 and was never spanked. She was denied privileges or toys or grounded or talked to in a very stern voice, but we never hit her. The only time she was slapped, on the hand, was by my mother, and only once. It was in a store and it was an instinctive act by my mom. It hurt my daughter's feelings so much more than it did her hand and my mom was so regretful she did it afterwards. My daughter was about 4 or 5, I think, and she still remembers it.