A little advice, please

[BernDog]

In my experience, nine is too old for timeouts. I haven't done them with my 9yolds for a couple years. When they were younger one probably had enough to count on one hand total, the other had some days where you ran out of fngers for that day. At the age they are now, finding something immediate is crucial. Take something away for a predetermined time with either one or zero warnings. Santa brought an iPad for the family this year. They're learning really quickly to take turns or they all lose it for a while. That's just my example.

The challenge is finding something to take away that is impactful. Once you find it, exploit the hell out of it.