04-07-2006, 10:41 PM
wurm and schmani have it right. This isn't about gender roles. It is about showing courtesy to another human. Some people do it, others don't. A date is about compatibility and dmann was looking for someone who shared the same sensibilites as she. No match there, that's all.
I hold doors all the time for people. It is pretty funny sometimes to do it just to see different people's reactions. I do it now as a study in human behavior and interaction. Amazing how something as simple as holding a door open for people can elicit such a wide range of social and emotional responses. Everything from the "simple thanks" to "the hurry up jog" to "the grunt" to the "I got it" to "the warm smile" to "the look away" to the "thanks man" and many others I have come to expect. It varies by race, gender, age, and my estimation of socioeconomic status. Having done this for a while I have gotten better at stereotyping people; but of course, I get surprised all the time.
BT
I hold doors all the time for people. It is pretty funny sometimes to do it just to see different people's reactions. I do it now as a study in human behavior and interaction. Amazing how something as simple as holding a door open for people can elicit such a wide range of social and emotional responses. Everything from the "simple thanks" to "the hurry up jog" to "the grunt" to the "I got it" to "the warm smile" to "the look away" to the "thanks man" and many others I have come to expect. It varies by race, gender, age, and my estimation of socioeconomic status. Having done this for a while I have gotten better at stereotyping people; but of course, I get surprised all the time.
BT