Emotional Zombieness...... my brother is dying

[rgG]

Your post was a great tribute to your very special brother and a testament to how close you are. You have my deepest sympathy at this very difficult and sad time in your life.

-Rhonda

[JoeM]

I am so sorry for you and your family. Sounds like you guys are one heck of a family. I guess the only comfort you can take is in knowing you have all done all you possibly could for all these years. In the end, when someone we love is so ill for such a long time, it seems that is all we can hope for.

[Carnos Jax]

Speechless I am...condolences bra'.

[cbelt3]

Thank you all for being part of my extended virtual family. I've always said this:

"Sorrow shared is sorrow diminished. Joy shared is joy increased".

Thank you all for diminishing my sorrow, and letting me share some of the joy that filled my brother's life. I know that his last steps on the journey of life aren't going to be easy, but we will be there to carry him through it, as we always have.

You see (and I have used this phrase since I learned it as a young lad):

He's not heavy. He's my brother.

[wurm]

Very sorry to hear the news. My thoughts and prayers are with you, as well. I did love reading your tribute. You are fortunate to have those great memories, and I thank you for sharing them with us. In the course of a few paragraphs, you managed to bring out tears and smiles. And in times like these, you can hopefully take some comfort in the fact that you all came to this difficult decision together.

[Silencio]

What a great tribute to your brother, and to the spirit of your entire family. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

[pRICE cUBE]

We may not be everyday friends around here but hearing your news definitely puts a lump in my chest. I hope your family can find some peace somehow, someday. I think your brother is seeking peace and it will all make better sense some day. Let us know if we can do anything for you.

[jdc]

sad to say ive been there, and there are no words

my youngest brother (of the 3 of us) had who knows what, not even the drs were sure -- could barely walk, talk or function beyond a 2 year old -- seemed like hundreds of surgeries -- but none ever would make him whole again -- but it didnt matter: he was still our brother and we loved him just the same

they said he would never live to see 3, then 5, then 10 -- 28 years later it was finally over like it just begun yesterday

i feel for you, in the end 28 years was more than enough for a lifetime of memories i will never forget

tears and prayers with you.

[JoeBob]

Condolences to you, sounds like your family is awesome- every person with special needs should be as fortunate as your brother. Props to your family for letting him say that it is time, and not challenging him on his decision.

My ex wife hates her handicapped brother with a ferocity that I cannot fathom, I should have noticed that as a red flag years ago.

My familys prayers are with you.

[Kiva]

your post was wonderful.....our thoughts are with you...


"Sorrow makes us all children again - destroys all differences of intellect. The wisest know nothing. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson


if I could be so presumtuous...from David Wilcox:

The mountains were high from the valley below
But back in those days they didn't know
What was waiting for them over the divide
And who would be the first to see the other side

But you made the climb up to the crest
Seeing it all ahead of the rest
And your expression showed the wonder of the place
Looking westward with the sunlight on your face

At the wide open vista
At the wide open sweet someday
Climbing over the ridge top
To finally see the view
That none of us ever have known
Crossing over to home
In the vista
Home

The flowers are bright here at your side
All of us came to say our goodbye
The light of morning shines stronger in the room
Your breathing changes, the time is coming soon
I speak my love, I say my words
You squeeze my hand to say that you've heard
And in your eyes I watch the twinkle in the blue
Looking over the ridge and out into the view

At the wide open vista
At the wide open sweet someday
Climbing over the ridge top
To finally see the view
That none of us ever have known
Crossing over to home
In the vista

In the wide-open sweet someday
Climbing over the ridge top to finally see the view
All of us go there alone
Crossing over to home
In the vista
The wide-open sweet someday
The wide open vista